The Momtastics

Im a nanny for three children and the oldest is giving me problems. He is 5 and he has terrible ADHD along with anxiety issues like Ive never seen in a child. I can deal with that although it makes for a rough day… the biggest problem is that he pits his mother against me after I leave by lying to her about how I treat him and how I spend my day. Ive tried confronting him and he says he wont do it anymore (not true). Ive tried being extra sweet to him when I think he deserves discipline to see if maybe he reacts better to positives than negative (doesnt work). Ive tried being stern with him and strict to see if he just needs more structure (no help). The kicker is that his mother is way harsher with him than I am and he doesnt seem to react better to it… In fact he has worse tantrums with her than anyone, but he doesnt resent her like he does me. I realize that part of the problem is that he craves her attention, but I am the nanny and he is not going to get a lot more of her sttention. I need to figure out how to make the best of this.

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